Single Mother’s Guide to Finding Love After Divorce

Last Updated on January 18, 2024 by Lori Pace

Finding love and meeting new people can be terrifying, let alone finding love as a single mom. Dating can be untimely for those who have just been through a messy divorce. But as they always say, it is never too late to move on and start over.

Probably the first hindrance to single moms is getting their confidence back. Most moms overcome this phase; however, the majority of them don’t know exactly where to find new love. Fortunately, finding a new mate has never been more possible and more straightforward!

Finding Love as a Single Mom: Where to Start?

Get Social.

More often than not, it is hard to meet new people if you’re waiting for your relatives, friends, or acquaintances to introduce you to someone new. Online and offline, there are loads of platforms that you can use – dating apps, social networks, meetups, speed dating, and many others.

Learn to Say Yes!

Sometimes, thinking about dating again might feel awkward when you have a kid. But meeting new people also needs a bit of commitment. So, the next time someone asks you out, try not to say no. Whether it is a concert, basketball game, or blind date, say yes.

Give Yourself a Makeover.

Looking and feeling good is essential to gain the confidence to date again. Workout or get a new set of outfits. Or try other activities that will make you feel good and uplift your self-esteem.

Make the Most of Your Free Time.

When kids are at school or with grandparents, grab the opportunity to meet new guys. You could also contact your favorite date if you have one. Also, it’s essential to make sure that you have enough time for a new man in your life. Most single moms are too busy to have time for a new partner. Ideally, you should allow 2-3 hours per week to date, meet somebody, chat on dating apps, or scan guy profiles on dating sites. Establishing a ‘me time’ or relaxation routine is also as important.

Ask Friends to Introduce You to Your Ideal Guy.

It may sound desperate, but it wouldn’t hurt if you tell your friends or family members to introduce you to a guy or let you know if there’s a single lad that meets your top 3 ideal qualities. This idea may take you into places rather than just sitting around and waiting for people to set you up on a blind date.

Try Not to Date the Opposite of Your Ex.

Most women tend to find the qualities their ex-partner lacked in the people they meet. For example, your ex was irresponsible, so you find someone who’s a workaholic. While this relationship can be fulfilling at first, you must be aware that you do not love your new partner just because he is someone your ex is not.

 Never Lie About Having a Kids.

As a parent, you’re most likely teaching your kid that lying will not do any good. The same also applies to dating. Pretending someone you’re not on dating sites is plain pointless. So when do you reveal you have a child? Some dating sites/apps allow you to tick a box saying you’re a parent.

If you can’t find one, make sure to include that you have a little bundle of joy that you are crazy about in the “About Me” section. A sentence about your child is okay. Use the rest of the space to speak about what you want in a partner and some details about you.

Open Up About Dating with your Kids.

Moms with older kids should also not lie about their desire to date again. Make it brief and say something like, “Lately, I’m feeling lonely, so I’ve been thinking of meeting new people.” Answer your child promptly if they ask something about your date and then talk about something else like homework, school, friends, or other relevant stuff.

Introduce your Kids Only to the Right Person.

Generally, children tend to develop an attachment to people quite quickly, so you don’t have to submit them to every single person you date. Check here for some tips introducing your kids to your new boyfriend. Most kids assume that the people they meet are a big deal, and if the person disappears, it might affect them psychologically.

However, if you believe that a relationship is deep and stable, then probably it’s the right time for your kids to meet Mr. Right.

Finding love is always complicated, and when we are older and have kids, there is so much more at stake. Keep your wits about you, but have some fun too! You deserve to find love and be happy.