10 Things Not To Say to a Single Pregnant Mom
Last Updated on November 10, 2023 by Lori Pace
I’ve been having a hard time as a single pregnant mom, with people making judgmental or uncalled-for comments, which is why I decided to share this infographic with all of you.
One of the most aggravating things in my pregnancy is how people have been talking to me since they found out I am expecting. Other moms in my situation have shared their experiences with me too, and it turns out that most people could use more tact with pregnant women. Especially single pregnant moms that are feeling enough pressure, loneliness, sadness, and confusion as it is.
It’s as if most people lose all self-control and respect once they see your baby bump. Sometimes they are only being kind and trying to compliment you; other times, things people say can be quite mean.
I’ve personally heard things such as:
- “You’re SO big!”
- “You look exhausted!”
- “Is that acne?”
- “Your boobs will sag soon enough, then how will you find a man?”
- “Enjoy your freedom now, once you still can!”
- “You realize you can’t date while you’re pregnant?’
- “Children ruin your life.”
- What happened to father – doesn’t he care?”
It takes a lot of self-control to stay polite and charming when someone confronts you with these types of comments or questions, even if they are well-meaning.
My List of Things Not To Say To Pregnant Women
“Wow, you’ve gotten so big!”
Even though this may seem harmless, and really, it’s true.
But, women typically don’t love when people comment on their size – when their hormones are raging is probably not a good time to start thinking it’s okay. Rather avoid commenting on other people’s bodies in general.
“Get your sleep in now. You won’t sleep when the baby is here!”
Again, we all know it’s the truth; babies are notorious for their sleep schedules. But please, give pregnant moms a break. We’re scared enough as it is, no need for you to hype us up even further.
“Can I touch your belly?”
Touching a pregnant belly can be controversial – some women don’t mind it, some genuinely dislike it.
The problem is, you don’t know how the pregnant mom in front of you feels about you invading her personal space. Rule of thumb: if she asks if you want to touch it, then it’s okay. Otherwise, please don’t do it.
“My children were so difficult or so easy.”
Every mom has their journey, and every single child is different. There’s no telling how a baby will be before they are born; therefore, it’s best not to speculate and scare the poor pregnant woman.
“You’re probably having a boy/girl – you’re no longer doing anything with your looks!”
You hear this, too, right? Commenting on how someone may have let themselves go would be rude to say to anyone, let alone your single pregnant friend or acquaintance.
“I don’t like that name.”
Different strokes for different folks. It’s best not to force your opinions down someone’s throat when carrying a new life.
“Are you sure you want to eat all that?”
While most women require nutritional advice while pregnant, be careful of how you sound when you comment on someone’s eating habit and weight gain. They may be pregnant, but it’s still hurtful to hear someone say things like that about your body.
“Giving birth is the worst pain ever.”
Of course, I believe you, but I’ve also heard most women say that they wish people didn’t freak them out about birth so much, as it was painful but still an unforgettable experience. It’s better to focus on the baby than on labor when you speak to a new mom.
“What happened to the father?”
If you have to ask this question, chances are the single pregnant mom didn’t want to share that kind of sensitive information with you.
Single Pregnant Mom Infographic – What Not To Say
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Now, I’d love to hear from you. What are things you think people should stop saying to pregnant women?
